Post Wedding Thoughts – 3 Years Later
I can’t believe we are coming up on our 3 year wedding anniversary! It seems like just yesterday I was sitting at our dining room table, organizing the guest list/seating arrangements while yelling at my husband because he wasn’t helping, lol. Although it seems like just yesterday, it also feels like we have been married for far longer than 3 years. Looking back on this time of my life 3 years later, I have a few things to share about my special day.
Our Special Day
This day was by far one of the best days of my life. Unlike most girls, I never really had a “dream” wedding, and I didn’t really know what I wanted until I actually got engaged. I never spent too much time imagining my dream dress, and I never wanted to make my wedding as extravagant as most brides on Say Yes To The Dress.
Once I got engaged, I started brainstorming what I wanted for my special day. I started compiling Pinterest Boards all focused on rustic decorations, along with endless photos of naked wedding cakes, and what seemed like a million different options for color schemes that took forever for me to choose from. I am such a perfectionist, and I wanted everything on that day to be nothing less than perfect. Knowing what I know now, I wish I could have told myself that everything I had planned wasn’t going to happen perfectly, but the day would still end up being perfect in my eyes.
On August 26 2017, it all came to life. I had MY PERFECT WEDDING.
My Favorite & Least Favorite Part of The Day:
My Favorite Part: The first look. As soon as I started planning my wedding, I knew I wanted to have a first look. I never thought I was going to be as nervous as I was in that moment. Walking up to my soon-to-be husband in my dream dress, anticipating his reaction and capturing it all on camera. I’m pretty sure I cried more in that moment than I had that entire day. After stressing so much about wanting to have a perfect wedding, it all came to life in that very moment. I was about to marry my best friend, and we were about to really start our lives together. Walking up towards my husband dressed in his suit and tie, knowing that this “moment” was finally here. The first look at my husband at our wedding was a moment I will never forget.
My least favorite part: The pre-ceremony photos. Talk about a stressful situation! I loved my bridal party and couldn’t have had better people to share my special day with, but I am someone who hates being late, and trying to squeeze in the bridal party photos in such a short amount of time was not something I enjoyed. We were already in a time crunch, and we even forgot to have our bouquets in the photographs (which I didn’t realize until we were getting ready to walk down the aisle, lol). It was all so overwhelming, and in that moment I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry, because being late for ANYTHING gives me full on anxiety, and I definitely didn’t want that on my special day. It all seemed so unorganized, although looking back now, it wasn’t as unorganized as I remember it being in that moment. My type A personality was definitely not enjoying that moment whatsoever, lol.
Things I learned:
1. You will identify true relationships
You will find out who your true friends are- or at least the ones who will re-organize their schedules and do anything they can to be there for you on your special day. I walked away from that entire process being able to re-evaluate who was really a positive light in my life and what relationships I would keep around post-wedding.
2. You need to live in the moment
Planning a wedding is stressful, regardless of how big or small you are wanting your wedding to be. It is important to live in the moment, enjoy your special day, and not stress about the planning because there will always be SOMETHING that falls apart on your special day. But at that moment, you won’t even care. You are about to marry the love of your life.
3. Ask for help
No matter if you think you can, YOU CAN’T DO IT ALL. I will never be able to thank all the family and friends that helped plan and set up the wedding that day. I will forever be thankful for those family members who woke up early, and spent all morning driving back and forth from the venue to the hotel, just to make sure everything I wanted was in place.
4. NOTHING ELSE MATTERS
You will spend months and maybe even years planning out your special day. I promise you will have more than one mental breakdown and you will definitely have more than one argument with your significant other. You may have to change vendors, or move some dates around. You may have to cut your guest list, and you may have arguments with your bridal party. But let me tell you that NONE of that matters on your special day. You are going to start the rest of your life with the one person you have always dreamed about. That special day is going to fly by, and nothing else matters except you and your significant other.
