Lessons You Learn After A Failed Relationship

I’ve had my fair share of failed relationships. But it wasn’t until a serious college relationship turned abusive that I realized that there are so many lessons to be learned after heartbreak. After taking time to cry, be angry, and heal, you will see what lessons you learn after a failed relationship.

Self-reflection

When you are no longer in a bad relationship, you are able to do a lot of self-reflection. Because of the nature of these relationships, you began to reflect on your own behavior and choices. It allows you to assess what you contributed to the difficulties and how you could grow in order to move forward. It’s easy to blame the other person for a failed relationship, but self-reflection is extremely important in order to prevent the same patterns from happening again. 

Understanding boundaries

You learn the importance of establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries. You are able to recognize your own needs, values and limits. Overall, knowing your boundaries helps minimize conflict. Setting and establishing boundaries helps improve your overall mental health and mood. 

Identify Red flags

After a failed relationship, you often start to notice the warning signs/red flags that were initially ignored or unnoticed. You learn to identify and pay attention to the signs in order to avoid similar situations in the future. When you are blinded by love, you are blinded by all the negative things that may occur. And you may not have identified them as red flags until you take a step outside of the relationship. Identifying the red flags in a failed relationship is a very valuable lesson you can learn to help you succeed in the future. 

Assess Your Communication skills

Communication (or lack thereof)  is a common factor in many failed relationships. Once a relationship ends, you can reflect on how you communicated in the past and try to identify areas of improvement. You can start to develop communication skills which can include active listening, expressing your needs appropriately, as well as being more open to dialogue. 

You Learn About Self worth

Your self-worth can skyrocket after a bad relationship.  But it can also negatively impact your self-esteem. It’s essential to recognize your worth and not allow your value to be defined by the success/failure of a relationship. After a bad failed relationship, focus on self-care, personal growth and creating a more positive self-image.

What’s the biggest lesson you learned after a failed relationship?

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