Cheers To 5 Years! Here’s What I’ve Learned After 5 Years of Marriage
I think 5 years is a pretty good milestone in marriage. You’ve made it past the honeymoon phase, and you’re beginning to progress your life towards what you want to achieve. Starting a family, moving in together, whatever it may be. My marriage has included moving to a new state, surviving a pandemic, and raising a child along the way. So I will gladly say Cheers to 5 Years! Here’s What I’ve Learned After 5 Years Of Marriage.
Marriage is hard
I never understood why people used to say that marriage was hard. For me, it didn’t seem like it would be that much harder than dating. But it really is. Unfortunately, I can’t really explain why. But if you are married and reading this, you understand exactly what I’m saying.
Communication in a relationship isn’t always easy
As much as you want to be a good communicator in your marriage, sometimes it’s not always that easy. You may think talking about your problems with your partner is an easy thing, but I promise you, it’s not. Communication isn’t always easy. But working on improving your communication with your partner is going to make a huge difference in your relationship.
Alone time is still very much so a necessity
Once you get past the honeymoon stage, you will realize that it’s not really ideal or ‘healthy’ to be with your partner 24/7. As your relationship continues and you start expanding your family, alone time will become more important than ever. Needing alone time doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner any less. It’s a good thing to know when you need alone time because prioritizing your mental health is just as important as prioritizing your relationship
You don’t have to get the last word in after a fight
Sometimes sitting in silence is better than saying something you’re going to regret. I think we all can agree that sometimes we want to be the one who gets the last word. But with that mentality, you’re more than likely going to give yourself the opportunity to say something hurtful.
Don’t compare your relationship to anyone else’s
I’ve been super guilty of this within the last year. Especially with having a child. Even today I compare my relationship to others that I see online. I watch other couples have date nights weekly and going on vacations with their children. It’s easy to play the comparison game with those ‘happy’ couples you see on the internet. But that’s exactly the point, ‘happy couples you see on the internet’. Just because it’s online doesn’t mean it’s true. Sometimes I have to stop myself and focus on my current relationship and how blessed and thankful I really am. My life is exactly where I need it and want it to be at this time in my life.
Anyone who says marriage is easy has never been married. I was someone who thought that marriage was always rainbows and butterflies. And it can be like that sometimes, but definitely not all the time. Marriage will definitely come with it’s highs and lows. But after reaching this first milestone with my husband, I know we can keep this going forever. So I’m going to raise my glass and say Cheers to 5 Years! This Is What I’ve Learned After 5 Years Of Marriage
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