Ways to Celebrate if You Are Missing Your Mom On Mother’s Day

Unless you are the one who is in the position of missing your mom on Mother’s day, it may be hard to think of this day as anything else other than a celebration. But unfortunately Mother’s Day isn’t a holiday to a lot of people. There are ways to Celebrate if you’re Missing your Mom on Mother’s Day.

When it comes to Mother’s/Father’s Day, I tend to think of those who don’t have a reason to celebrate this day. I think of those who think of this day as more of a heartache than a celebration. 

The grieving mothers, those yearning to be others, those who have never had a mother, those who have lost children, those with strained relationships, those who have chosen not to be mothers, and those who are grieving the loss of their mother. My heart is with you.

There are people who have lost their mothers, there’s people who want nothing more than to be a mom, but their chance hasn’t happened yet. There’s people that don’t get along with their mom – they never have, and they may never will.  It is important to recognize that there are people everywhere with different stories and different relationships. It’s hard to think of those people unless you have been in that position where this day brings more grief than happiness.

My Hope For You,

On this day, I hope anyone who may be struggling with this day takes the time to do the things that make them happy. With grief, coping mechanisms vary from person to person. Some people may want to retreat, while others may try and celebrate what little bit that they can. But with whatever decision that is made, there will be pain hidden that others will never understand.

If you are missing your mom on Mother’s Day, my heart is with you. I hope you can find comfort and hope when dealing with this day.  If you’ve lost your mom on Mother’s Day, here are some things you can do to keep her in your memory, and maybe provide you with a sense of comfort. 

Write to her

I am a big advocate for writing down your feelings. In previous blog posts I have mentioned the benefits of writing. It can play a huge role in being a coping mechanism for me. I can write when I’m sad, when I’m angry, when I’m happy, or when I’m bored. Being able to get my feelings out on paper is something that brings such a huge relief to me. If you are missing your mom on Mother’s Day, write it down. Write a card and tell her all the things you would tell her if she was right next to you. 

Visit her

If your mother is located somewhere that makes it possible for you to visit her, go spend the day with her. Despite you not being physically together in person, it may bring you comfort knowing that you are in the same place at the same time. You may feel a sense of comfort in knowing that you are near her, despite not being able to physically feel her embrace.  If your mother is not nearby, find a photo of her or one with the two of you together. If you are someone like me who believes in a higher power, you will have comfort in knowing that she is with you, only watching you from above. 

Spend time alone

I am someone who really appreciates time alone when I am grieving or going through emotions. The ‘support’ that others can provide is something I rarely feel like I want when I am stuck in my emotions. For me, being alone is something that really allows me to get my feelings out without feeling judged. I enjoy being alone with my feelings and allowing myself to feel whatever comes to the surface. But if you are someone who does better with supportive people around you, the next option is for you. 

Spend time with people who support you.

Not everyone enjoys being alone when they are sad. Having a distraction can be a great way for you to cope when you are grieving. Missing your Mom on Mother’s Day can bring an unbearable amount of pain. If you don’t want to feel the pain on this day, make it a point to be around people who can distract you from your emotions. But ONLY if you want to be distracted. If you want the support, make sure you spend your day being around people who can provide the support you need. You may need to be specific when it comes to telling them what you need from them. 

Do something that reminds you of her

It may help you to do things that remind you of your mother on a day like this. Do things you used to do together. Try doing things that you know she would enjoy. This may bring a sense of comfort and happiness. This day may give you pain that feels unbearable. Think of all the things she would like to be doing on Mother’s Day. Go to her favorite restaurant and order her favorite meal. If she enjoyed gardening, go purchase flowers in her favorite color and plant them in the yard. Anything you can think of to help keep her memory alive and feel like she is still there with you. 

Whatever your choice is, it’s important to listen to your heart and do what is going to provide you with comfort. This will probably be an uncomfortable day. It is important to decide what Mother’s Day looks like to you. Or being able to identify what you want it to look like. Do your favorite things but never forget to keep her memory alive. 

Missing your mom on Mother’s Day can bring an overwhelmingly heightened sense of grief. This may be more than you experience on any other day. Just know that my heart is with you. I hope when this day comes around every year, you are able to make it through with the support that you need. Even if it means supporting yourself and being alone. Know that you aren’t alone. There are many other people on this earth who grieve this holiday just like you.

Happy Mother’s Day to anyone and everyone who may be grieving their mom on this day 

If you are looking for more comfort, check out “50 quotes about missing your mom who passed away“

If you are a mom, check out some of my other Motherhood blog posts