It’s okay to go to bed angry: We’ve all heard it, “Never go to bed angry”. Although I understand why people say this, I don’t necessarily agree with it, and it’s typically very hard for me to actually do. When my husband and I argue, I find it extremely beneficial for us to sleep on our feelings, and if it is still bothering us in the morning, then we talk about it with a new mindset, and not in the heat of the moment.
It’s okay to want space: It is OKAY to have time apart and it is OKAY to have separate hobbies. A healthy marriage includes 2 separate lives coming together as 1, as well as being able to maintain some aspects of your individual lives as much as possible
Marriage requires HARD WORK: It is not always easy, and there will come a time where you realize that marriage is HARD. When you decide to get married, you have to understand that you need to choose to put your all into your relationship if you want it to succeed. Some years will be easy, but some years will be harder than others (like having and raising your first child during a pandemic, lol).
Marriage is fun: Even though marriage is hard work, it’s also the most fun you’ve ever had in your life. You spend every day with your best friend, and create the best memories you’ll ever have.
Compromise isn’t always 50/50: Of course you wish your compromises would be 50/50, but sometimes someone is going to be compromising more than the other…. And this is going to happen more than once. Marriage is all about the give and take.
These are definitely not the only lessons I’ve learned over the past 3 years of marriage, but these are probably my favorite. I know I have SO MUCH more to learn as we go through life together and I can’t wait to write an updated post the longer we’re together.
